Why do I feel angry?
Most people understand that your brain guides what you think, where you go, and what you do, but they may not know how it works. Dr. Daniel Siegal developed an idea called the hand model of the brain to help illustrate how different parts of the brain work. It’s a fun exercise to do if you want to understand more about what parts of the brain are triggering various reactions like anger. If you are struggling with anger, talking to one of our Houston Anxiety therapists or Trauma therapists might help.
How does the brain affect my Anger?
I’d like you to hold up your hand with your palm facing toward you. Then put your thumb into the palm of your hand. Your thumb represents your emotional brain or your “downstairs brain” it is in control of deciding if your environment is safe. Now while your thumb is still tucked into your palm, bring all 4 fingers over your thumb. Your fingers represent your thinking brain or “upstairs brain” it is in charge of remembering things and organizing things. While your hand is in this fist shape it is a brain working properly.
Take breaks when you’re angry
Now I’d like you to lift your fingers back up. This is a brain where the upstairs and downstairs brains are disconnected. Dr. Seigal calls this “flipping your lid”. Someone who has flipped their lid only has their emotions to act on and tends to say things they do not mean, or act in ways they wouldn’t act otherwise. Two people who have their lids flipped don’t tend to talk to each other but at each other. When you flip your lid this is a great time to take a break and talk later. Typically something that was said or done triggered someone to a past experience and their brain goes into survival mode.
How can I Regulate My emotions?
You may understand what part of the brain causes you to get angry and emotional, but what can you do to regulate those emotions? If you are trying to manage emotions, this would be a great time to use coping skills such as taking some deep breaths or watching something that makes you feel happy. Going for a walk is another good coping skill as movement can be great for settling your whole system. Some people also find that holding something to fidget with gets out the excess energy. Talking to one of our caring therapists can help you learn new coping mechanisms to regulate your emtions.
Use this Breathing exercise to decompress When You’re angry
I want you to breathe in focusing your breathing toward your stomach making it inflate and count to 4…then hold that breath in for a count of 4…then breathe out for a count of 4 holdings again for a count of 4…repeat this process 5-10 times and check-in with yourself on how you’re feeling.
This is a Guest post by Lisa Smith
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